Relationship matters

 Before we go into detail, let’s look at one of the most important factor affecting friendship, relationship, and marriage in general. This factor has been so much neglected in this part of the country in so much a way that we tend to believe that it doesn’t matter in times of friendship, relationship, and marriage.

That is FRIENDSHIP

Friendship has been highly neglected in relationships and marriages today, that is why we are having so much problem in relationships and marriages

Friendship           =      mutual understanding

Relationship       =      the union in between two

Marriage             =      the coming together of a man and a woman from different parents to live as one

The  power point to these three words is friendship. It must be understood and applied in every aspect.

It is the fertilizer that gives strength to relationship, both in marriage, outside marriage, in families, relationships and unions.

Friendship is a word that most people who claim to be in it, do not really understand.

Jesus said to his disciples, I have not called you servant but friend.

Have you ever taken time to look at His reason why called them friends instead of servants or even   slaves.

In so many friendships, there is no friendship, what they have is the knowledge of identification and recognition and not really friendship.

The reason Jesus said that was because of his honesty and openness towards them.

He opened up himself, everything about Him and His father.

The only thing He did not tell them was His coming back and that was because He does not know when He would be coming back. He told them the only person who knows is the Father.

That is a good and practical example of what a true friendship relationship should be like.

After Jesus ascended into heaven, there was nothing his disciples later discovered that He kept from them as secrete. It was the highest level of honesty and sincerity, not minding the consequences, or shying away from responsibility.

For you to experience this kind of true genuine friendship, you must love like Jesus did; He loved us without a reason. He loved us even while we were sinners and ungrateful.

Now Love is like playing the piano, first you must learn to play by the rules, and then you must forget the rules and play as if there are no rules, playing from your heart. It is also like a child learning how to walk, and when learns, walks as if he never learn it. Without love, which is the ability to overlook faults and offenses, see less of the weakness and focus more on the strength, there would be no true friendship friends.

 You can only be friends when you both become friendly.